As many of you are new to the swinging scene, it has been suggested that perhaps some guidance on swingers contact manners would be useful.
When you create a profile give as much detail as you feel comfortable publishing. The more information you put into the profile text the higher the chances of getting responses that are relevant to you.
If you have restrictions about who you want to meet put them into your profile. For example, In my profile - gojojogo - in the "Personal Details" section I have said that I am looking for single men, but in my profile text I have narrowed the criteria by explaining that I only want to meet single men between 24 and 45.
Do not put your email address or phone numbers in your profile. This restriction is to protect all our users. In the past we had people creating fake profiles entering the telephone numbers, photographs and email addresses of workmates, ex partners and other innocent parties.
If you enter a phone number or email address the moderators will either delete the details or fail the profile, hiding it from other users.
We do not allow advertising by Call Girls / Escorts / Prostitutes.
If you are an escort advertising for play friends please use a different e-mail address from that used for your business. If I am made aware of people being asked for payment when responding to profiles where the "Paid services = No" I will delete the ad.
Please respond to all e-mails you receive from respondents.
Most of them will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.
It does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.
Always be polite.
When responding to a profile, tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.
Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.
If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a piece of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad).
Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.
If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser.
I am bound to have missed a few points, if you come up with some more, please feel free to write and tell me at [email protected]
My husband and I have been in the swinging scene for more than 40 years between us, and we have noticed that as the number of people in the scene has been increasing, so has the bad bahaviour.
Some of it is because people just do not know how to behave in the swinging lifestyle, so we have added the following pages to our swingers sites to help explain how you should behave in the swinging lifestyle.